A few weeks ago, regular Offbeat Mama contributor Georgia Brizuela added this photo of her son donning what appeared to be the most incredible pair of tights for a boy that I had ever seen (seriously). I immediately followed the link in the photo to our sponsor Slugs & Snails, and Irish business solely operated by a couple who design and sell colorful patterned tights for BOYS.
i got to this thru another post abt being a feminist housewife, which like, fine, let’s have more articles that make the devaluation of feminised labour visible, but anyway, whatever, like. boys tights.
While I’m all for bringing back hose for men, it’s a little sad these people think their small child’s masculinity is so fragile they had to create a new company just to make sure his legwear is gender-conforming.
Those really just look like they’re extra well-made tights/leggings for babies with non-princess patterns. Also no ruffles on the butt. (I think the ruffle butt tights are so cute, though.)
“A study, to appear in the Fall 2014 issue of the academic journal Perspectives on Politics, finds that the U.S. is no democracy, but instead an oligarchy, meaning profoundly corrupt, so that the answer to the study’s opening question, “Who governs? Who really rules?” in this country, is:
“Despite the seemingly strong empirical support in previous studies for theories of majoritarian democracy, our analyses suggest that majorities of the American public actually have little influence over the policies our government adopts. Americans do enjoy many features central to democratic governance, such as regular elections, freedom of speech and association, and a widespread (if still contested) franchise. But, …” and then they go on to say, it’s not true, and that, “America’s claims to being a democratic society are seriously threatened” by the findings in this, the first-ever comprehensive scientific study of the subject, which shows that there is instead “the nearly total failure of ‘median voter’ and other Majoritarian Electoral Democracy theories [of America]. When the preferences of economic elites and the stands of organized interest groups are controlled for, the preferences of the average American appear to have only a minuscule, near-zero, statistically non-significant impact upon public policy.”
To put it short: The United States is no democracy, but actually an oligarchy.”—
“Too many young women I think are harder on themselves than circumstances warrant. They are too often selling themselves short. They too often take criticism personally instead of seriously. You should take criticism seriously because you might learn something, but you can’t let it crush you. You have to be resilient enough to keep moving forward, whatever the personal setbacks and even insults that come your way might be. That takes a sense of humor about yourself and others. Believe me, this is hard-won advice I’m putting forth. It’s not like you wake up and understand this. It’s a process.”—
“Hemingway and James Joyce were drinking buddies in Paris. Joyce was thin and bespectacled; Hemingway was tall and strapping. When they went out Joyce would get drunk, pick a fight with a bigger guy in the bar and then hide behind Hemingway and yell, “Deal with him, Hemingway. Deal with him.””—
From the Charoset chapter in Entree to Judaism (this book is awesome):
- 8 ounce package of pitted Medjool dates
- 2 Fuji or gala apples
- 1 cinnamon stick
Place the dates in a saucepan with water and cook covered, medium high, while the dates soften. The water should reduce to below the level of the dates. Peel, core, and dice apples into 1/2 inch chunks and add apples and cinnamon to the dates and cook over low heat, do not let water evaporate. Take out the cinnamon stick and run through a food processor to a rough purée.
There were some other recipes that used almond butter but no whole nuts, so if you used something else to bind it (bananas or date honey?) that would work.
"Among the series enjoying critical acclaim — True Detective, Breaking Bad — women are often either shiftless femmes fatales or harried wife-mothers the protagonist is neglecting/staying alive to provide for. In the USA consultant procedural, girlfriends and wives are always first and foremost…
Um. Clint makes Steve and Bucky read Harry Potter. The Avengers all have very, very strong opinions about which house they get sorted into. Bucky thinks he's a Slytherin, but Steve says he's a Hufflepuff through and through.
"This isn’t a legitimate classification system," said Steve angrily, throwing the book onto the couch next to Clint. "This is bullshit. They’re children, for cripe’s sake.”
Clint’s eyebrows rose to comical levels.
"You can’t just isolate different children or—or— or try to predetermine their characters at age eleven," Steve said, thoroughly angry. "And you certainly can’t condemn an entire fourth of your school’s population to a villainy house, what the hell is that?”
He started to pace.
"As if people never change! As if there’s no moral or ethical growth after age eleven!”
Bucky reached over Clint and picked up the book. Clint gave him a look and he shrugged.
"Hell, if it makes Steve this angry, I gotta check it out," he explained.
"This isn’t a basis for education!" Bucky shouted. "Where are the art classes, huh? Kids this age should have access to art classes."
"Exactly!" shouted Steve. "Maybe a little less institutionalized racism and a little more arts education, am I right?"
I love that the fifth element is on the France list, both because I love that movie, and also because the idea that it would be an essential cultural touchstone for a frozen superman who slept for 70 years is hilarious.
And The Beatles are only on the UK list. And Llewin Davis doesn’t appear on any.
"Rocky (Rocky II?)" is my favorite item on the list, and I love that it’s on EVERY SINGLE ONE.
It’s hard to be told to lighten up because if you lighten up any more, you’re going to float the fuck away. The problem is not that one of these things is happening, it’s that they are all happening, concurrently and constantly.
These are just songs. They are just jokes. They are just movies. It’s just a hug. They’re just breasts. Smile, you’re beautiful. Can’t a man pay you a compliment? In truth, this is all a symptom of a much more virulent cultural sickness — one where women exist to satisfy the whims of men, one where a woman’s worth is consistently diminished or entirely ignored.
Sometimes I’m lucky enough to find a few of the Haggadahs that my family’s been using for decades – the Maxwell House versions that date back to 1932. But usually I give up and begin Googling madly to piece together something customized for my semi-secular and interfaith gathering. Last year our Haggadah revolved around a single quote by the Dalai Lama about how compassion delivers us from isolation.